be cheap on stuff that doesnt matter
I love love love clothes but I HATE spending more than $20 on something. The way I have more money to do stuff is because of how much i dont spend on clothes. In SF I have a goodwill literally right next door and I freaking love it. In Utah I only shop at Plato’s. The only clothing pieces I think you should spend decent money on are shoes and watches. They are timeless. save that $50 that you were gonna spend on a tshirt and spend it on a concert or plane ticket for a weekend get a way.
in a world where you can be any one you want, be phoebe buffey.
if you dont like Friends, i am sorry that we can not be friends. but phoebe is my spirit animal. she is the kooky/weird/offthewall one in the group, shes weird but hilarious. doesnt care what everyone else is doing and does what she wants to do. she is charismatic with guys. (ill admit ive tried to use her pick up lines on guys. It has worked in the past but if the guy didnt understand the friends reference, i ended the conversation really quick. i dont need that negativity around.) she plays the guitar. has her own music video. 2 back up guys if shes single at 40. preaches good vibes to the gang. saves kids by drinking more alcohol so the kids have less to drink = shes brilliant!! im sorry, where was i going with this?
Your family should always come first.
whether the family you were born into or the family you have made over your life.. they need to be shown love. love the crap out of them. when i was younger i always tried at all costs to not spend a friday night at home because thats lame, right? now ive realized my parents are cooler then my friends. im still not for staying in when were so full of life rn but if im with the folks.. im all for it. i wish i could go back to my high school/middle school self and tell myself to spend more time with them. make time for your family. it might not be your parents but it could be the aunt who treated you like a child of their own or your neighbors you have a weirdly close relationship with.. MAKE TIME FOR THEM!!!!!!!!!!!! miss you fam
be humble as shit
if you are always telling people you are confident and sexy.. they might eventually realize you are telling yourself that, not them. fake it til you make it... YES!! it totally works!!
BUT if you can be confident (an example) and dont have to tell people you are.. thats the best feeling. i can not state this enough!! if someone notices something about you and youve never told them, its very complementing to YOU. like when you get a hair cut, right? if someone notices it without you telling them.. IT MEANS SO MUCH MORE! that is what im trying to get with this. "im great at presentations" "i have the highest sales" "everybody loves me at work" GO YOU!!!!! i mean it, go you!! but when someone can realize that without you bringing it to their attention. shit. that shits gold!!!!! i love hearing people say good things about others that they dont brag about. gawwhhh its the best thing!
side note: it really should only matter what you think.. if you think a guy is cute or an outfit is cute.. then hell yes. if some one else doesnt.. good! they aint wearing the outfit and they aint gonna go for the guy then. if you think you are confident then yes, you are. im not saying youre not if you tell someone, im trying to say its more rewarding when they realize on their own.
dont take anything personal
a lot of people i know, my self included, get offended if they don't get invited to something or someone comments on something you are insecure about. 9/10 times that person is not intentionally trying to insult you. nobody thinks about you as much as you do.. FAVORITE CHARACTER! if you read something someone posted on the internet that you think is about you, its probably not. but if the shoe fits... like my last paragraph. its not about anyone but if you feel its about you.. then it might be. but not intentionally. dont get offended. it only hurts you!!
be nice
I read an article once that said to get in the habit to do nice things for people who will never find out. If you feel you wanna donate to the homeless man downtown or pay for the person in front of you at Chick-fil-A, don’t tell them. Or again be humble about it. I try to live by this. Stick up for friends that aren’t around and won’t ever know you spoke up, atleast not from you. just be nice not for the praise but just for being an extraordinary human.
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